“Independence is happiness.” – Susan B. Anthony

The Lone Wolf

In light of the many challenges that life throws our way, it can be especially difficult to find a comfortable state of independence. The Queen of Swords has mastered this art, and is able to function on her own without the assistance of any outside parties. Her ambition constantly drives her to knew heights, and she would prefer not to allow herself to become too attached to others. She is far more solitary in her endeavors, and is extremely uncomfortable when she feels as though she is in debt to someone. Due to this independent nature, she has had to become proficient in all matters of supporting herself, even ones that would oftentimes be performed by others. You are much like The Queen, and would rather do things on your own than leave these responsibilities to others. You function best when you can work independently, are are quickly put in a sour mood whenever you learn that you have no choice but to work with others. Due to your preference to not interact with others more than necessary, you tend to not make many promises or do many favors, but don’t particularly expect them in return. There is nobody in this world better suited to taking care of you than yourself, and there is nobody that you trust to have the same level of judgement that you have over your own personal affairs. In the end, the decisions in your life will always ultimately be yours. However, it is also important to acknowledge that you will not be able to do everything on your own. Keep an open mind, pay attention to your health, and be sure that you are able to ask for help if your truly need it.

In a world that places such a heavy emphasis on romance, it can be difficult to prefer the single life. People are constantly asking you when you are going to get a partner, when you’ll get married, or when you plan to have children. However, none of these things are in your ultimate plan. While you may not exactly be opposed to finding a partner one day, you aren’t actively looking. You’d much rather be single and focus on your own ambitions, as it feels like a relationship just gets in the way of this. If you are currently in a relationship, it may feel as though your partner has been suffocating you lately, leaving you with barely any privacy or time to yourself. Whether they demand your attention at all hours of the day, shower you with excessive affection, or demand that you move to the next level with them, it feels as though you can’t get a breath in before they invade every aspect of your life all over again. In the end, a relationship is meant to make you happy; if not being in a relationship is what makes you happy, then it would be best for you to stay single. Consider putting your foot down with pushy friends and family members, and remind them that it is ultimately your decision whether or not you want to introduce romance into your life. Ask them this: would they rather you be happy and single, or in a relationship with someone that you don’t particularly like and be downright miserable? This does not mean that you should completely cut out all possibility of a future romance; instead, remind them that if it is going to come, you are going to let it come naturally with time. If you are currently struggling with an oppressive relationship, it may be time to confront your partner and set your boundaries. Just because they are your partner does not mean that they have to be the center of you attention at every waking hour of the day. Reassure them that you still care for them just as you did before, but that they need to step back and give you space from time to time.

SWORDS. QUEEN.

Her right hand raises the weapon vertically and the hilt rests on an arm of her royal chair; the left hand is extended, the arm raised; her countenance is severe but chastened; it suggests familiarity with sorrow. It does not represent mercy, and, her sword notwithstanding, she is scarcely a symbol of power.

Divinatory Meanings: Widowhood, female sadness and embarrassment, absence, sterility, mourning, privation, separation.

Reversed: Malice, bigotry, artifice, prudery, bale, deceit.

In a world that places such a heavy emphasis on romance, it can be difficult to prefer the single life. People are constantly asking you when you are going to get a partner, when you’ll get married, or when you plan to have children. However, none of these things are in your ultimate plan. While you may not exactly be opposed to finding a partner one day, you aren’t actively looking. You’d much rather be single and focus on your own ambitions, as it feels like a relationship just gets in the way of this. If you are currently in a relationship, it may feel as though your partner has been suffocating you lately, leaving you with barely any privacy or time to yourself. Whether they demand your attention at all hours of the day, shower you with excessive affection, or demand that you move to the next level with them, it feels as though you can’t get a breath in before they invade every aspect of your life all over again. In the end, a relationship is meant to make you happy; if not being in a relationship is what makes you happy, then it would be best for you to stay single. Consider putting your foot down with pushy friends and family members, and remind them that it is ultimately your decision whether or not you want to introduce romance into your life. Ask them this: would they rather you be happy and single, or in a relationship with someone that you don’t particularly like and be downright miserable? This does not mean that you should completely cut out all possibility of a future romance; instead, remind them that if it is going to come, you are going to let it come naturally with time. If you are currently struggling with an oppressive relationship, it may be time to confront your partner and set your boundaries. Just because they are your partner does not mean that they have to be the center of you attention at every waking hour of the day. Reassure them that you still care for them just as you did before, but that they need to step back and give you space from time to time.

In order to maintain independence, we may oftentimes neglect our needs that require the assistance of other people. When The Queen of Swords appears in the reversed position, it may be a sign that you have neglected your personal needs so as to maintain a comfortable distance between yourself and others. Take some time to truly look at your current situation; are you really equipped to handle it all on your own? Don’t be afraid to reach out for help when you need it, even if it seems embarrassing. Everyone needs help from time to time, and there is no shame in asking for assistance. Isolating yourself during your time of need with only make it more difficult to take care of yourself, and may lead to an even more dependent state that lasts for a much longer period of time.