“It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.” – Daniell Koepke

Letting Go

Life isn’t always a group effort, and relationships can go sour. As difficult as it may be, there are times where we need to realize that they are no longer worth the pain and frustration. You may have been holding on for a number of reasons, but none of them seem to be strong enough to motivate you to stay any longer. Their presence in your life is like a parasite, slowly sapping your energy with every passing day, leaving you weaker and weaker as time goes on. However, it is time that you cut them free and move on with your life into a period of light and healing. It may be excruciatingly painful in the moment, but you will soon learn to appreciate the newfound freedom that their absence leaves you with. There is a relationship in your life that has been nothing but a hassle recently. You dream of a day where this person is no longer in your life, but you have been too afraid to make it official. Now is the time to put your foot down and either cut them off completely or set firm boundaries with them to protect yourself from further injury. This won’t be easy, and you may find that this person fights tooth-and-nail against your decision. No matter what they may threaten or no matter how they may try to guilt you into staying, remember why you made the decision to do this in the first place. If you back down from your conviction now, the situation will most likely only get worse than what it was before. If this is truly what you want, then you will need to commit to this plan of action. If you find yourself struggling with the pain that comes along with this decision, you may want to reach out to the rest of your support system for assistance. Most likely, they will be glad to see that you are cutting a toxic person out of your life. If they truly love you, they will jump to your aid at the drop of a hat, ready to protect your from any further abuses from this person.

Coping with the end of a romantic relationship can be one of the most devastating forms of heartache that we must learn to deal with in life. It is hard to admit that someone wasn’t who you made them out to be, and it can be even harder to admit that they were actively hurting you. However, admitting that they were a problem is the first step towards healing and moving on. When dealing with a breakup, your most valuable assets will be the other people in your support system. Reach out to those you love and trust the most, as they will be more than willing to comfort you in your time of need. A broken heart has many pieces, and sometimes it take more than one set of hands to put them back together again. You may be reeling from the abrupt ending of a romantic relationship. No matter the specific reason for your split, you know deep in your heart that this was the right decision. They can no longer hurt you, and it’s time to focus on healing the wounds that they left behind. Don’t rush yourself into the healing process, and don’t beat yourself up when it doesn’t happen overnight. These things take time, and it is okay to not be okay for a little while. However, it is also important that you don’t let yourself fall too deep into a depressive cycle of agony and self-pity, otherwise you risk making it harder and harder to pull yourself out. Keeping moving forward, even if it is one baby step at a time. Soon, you’ll be taking long strides into your future, closer and closer to someone that will know how to treat you right. If they reach out to you, don’t even dwell on the idea that you will be able to mend the relationship. This is a clear sign that whatever you had before is over, and it will take a long time, lots of apologies, and a miracle for the two of you to even be on friendly speaking terms again. Ignore their threats, because they are empty. Turn your cheek at their begging and sob-stories, as they are purely performative. If they really needed you that badly in their life, then they should have thought twice about treating you the way that they did.

SWORDS. THREE.

Three swords piercing a heart; cloud and rain behind.

Divinatory Meanings: Removal, absence, delay, division, rupture, dispersion, and all that the design signifies naturally, being too simple and obvious to call for specific enumeration.

Reversed: Mental alienation, error, loss, distraction, disorder, confusion.

A relationship in the workplace may be the primary cause of friction in your life at the moment. Perhaps you are plagued by a toxic relationship with your boss or coworker that seems to have no interest in anything other than making your job as difficult as possible. Or perhaps this toxic relationship is the one that you have with your job itself stemming from a dissatisfaction with your current position. You’ve reached a point that you don’t know what to do in order to remedy the situation, and you’ve even considered looking for new employment altogether. Every single possible solution has been exhausted, and it seems as though the situation is just getting worse and worse as the days go by. Every shift drags by, you productivity has reached an all-time low, and the paycheck no longer feels like it’s worth the stress and frustration. In order to preserve your own mental health, it may be time that you begin taking steps to distance yourself from this toxic relationship. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to quit your job entirely; if possible, you may want to look into being transferred, either to a different department or a different location altogether. If there is truly no other solution to this issue that you hadn’t previously tried, then it may be time to start looking for new work altogether. Try to stick it out while you are actively looking for a new job so that you won’t have to find a way t survive through a gap in pay. Once you have a new job secured and are ready to finally leave your current place of employment, be sure to not leave with negative feelings. Now is the time to cleanly cut ties and move on, not to focus on the wrongdoings that have done to you and lash out in vengeance. Avoid speaking negatively of this person or the company, and this can easily come back to haunt you in the future. Don’t complain to coworkers at your new job about the issues of your old job right off the bat; you don’t know these people very well and they are not yet familiar with the way that you function in a work environment. If you are vocal about conflicts that you faced in another workplaces, they may begin to suspect that you were the source of the problem. Instead, move forward into this position with an open mind and a clear conscience.

As painful as cutting someone important from your life may seem at first, all of your wounds will heal with time. When The 3 of Swords appears in the reversed position, then it may be a sign that you are finally moving on from the pain that a broken relationship previously inflicted upon you. You may have even reconnected with this person in a much healthier way. Perhaps they came to you in order to sincerely apologize for their actions, and the two of you have slowly started communicating again. If this is the case, then it is wise to proceed with caution; while it is reasonable to want a better relationship with them, it is also important that you stay vigilant to any attempts at abuse or manipulation. On the other hand, you may finally be coming to terms with the absence of someone that you removed from your life some time ago. You’ve finally healed from the wounds that they inflicted upon you, and you now have the room to bring in new relationships. Move forward into the future with the lessons that this pain has taught you, and use them as your armor against any future trespasses against you. You were strong enough to survive it once, and now your know better than to let it happen again.